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Tuesday, July 20th, 2010 | Author: Erika

Family pic Aidan 18 weeks oldSummer evenings in Washington tend to be pretty awesome in every way.  Perfect temperature, light breezes, daylight until 9 pm.  Perfection!

Wes and I make the most of these by taking a walk after dinner every evening that we can.  We strap Aidan into his Baby Bjorn (which he loves) and perambulating we go, three Mitchells taking in a summer evening.  I’m absolutely certain that these walks in no way atone for the amount of cheese we gleefully consume in our household, but it gets us some much-needed Vitamin D.  Surely the Vitamin D cancels out the cholesterol, no?

Anyway.  We walk in the evenings, and during the course of these walks we meet a good many people from around our neighborhood.  We passed a mother of two elementary school-aged kids, and she stopped to coo over Aidan, exclaiming, “I remember the Bjorn stage!”

She then asked us what his name was, and when we replied that his name is Aidan, she laughed and pointed to her son, telling us that his name was Aidan too.  We all laughed over the shared name, and she said that she has a neighbor whose child is named Aidan, and that she was pretty sure there was another Aidan in the neighborhood too.

As we walked away, I chided Wes, saying, “This is why you don’t name your child with the #1 most popular boy name in America!”  He shrugged and said he didn’t really care, while I equivocated that at least this meant our son wouldn’t get mocked by schoolmates for having a strange name.

The thing with Aidan’s name is that, when we picked it, it wasn’t the most popular name in America.  Aidan’s name has been picked out since 2002, when Wes and I first started dating.  We were on the phone late one night, talking about whether either of us wanted to have kids.

I told Wes I couldn’t see myself having kids, as I had no experience with little ones and was pretty certain I’d be a shoddy mother.  He said he fully intended to have kids someday, and that he’d want them to have cool Irish names (Wes is part Irish, and loves his Irish heritage).

I asked him if he had any names in mind, and he said the only one he was certain of was the name of his first son, whom he wanted to name Aidan.  When I asked if he had a middle name picked out, he said he’d probably want to name his first son after his father and use his father’s first name as Aidan’s middle name.

And so it was.  Aidan’s name, spelled out and well-loved well before his parents got their act together enough to get hitched.  Of course, we have other names picked out and ready to go.  Whether the next baby is a boy or girl, his or her name is ready to go, with a name from my side of the family ready to serve as a middle name.

While we waited to have babies, the rest of the country fell in love with the name Aidan and now there are Aidans everywhere.  The nice thing is, at least we won’t have to worry about no one knowing how to spell our son’s name…

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Friday, July 16th, 2010 | Author: Erika

Aidan and his spoon 18 weeks old 4…If you had a helper this cute!  I’m pleading crushing sleepiness following a monster-busy week with shoddy sleep, and so shall leave you with this cute picture and nothing substantive at all to speak of.  Have a great weekend everyone!

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Thursday, July 15th, 2010 | Author: Erika

My mind’s been a bit of a hamster wheel lately.  It keeps spinning spinning spinning about one of two issues, interchanging them seemingly at random until it feels like surely these are the only things everyone else is thinking about too.  In an effort to give the hamsters a break, I’ll lay bare my issues.  Maybe you can shake a stick at them and make them disappear for me?

The first thing I keep mulling over in my mind is how many kids I want to have.  Wes is content to have two and then see how we feel.  I can already tell how I’m going to feel: Right after baby two is born, I’ll be certain we’re done.  When baby two is a few months old, however, I’ll panic at the prospect of not having any more babies to snuggle and want more.

Trying to figure out how many kids to have is a huge responsibility!  We’re essentially deciding how many people we want to bring into the world, how many tiny humans we want to watch take their first breaths and then raise in a loving, stable home.

I’ve always seen myself as the kind of person who has a lot of love to give, and therefore would be at ease with three kids.  A hectic but happy household.  Now that I have a little baby, though, I see how much work it is!  The thought of doing this not once but twice more makes me want to take a 20 year nap.

Then there are the mechanics of having more than two kids.  From what I hear, having two kids is do-able, but when the kids start outnumbering the parents things turn into a bit of a circus.  But I like circuses!

The second issue I’ve been chewing on like the proverbial old bone is when to start Aidan on solid foods.  He’s been exclusively breastfed, and I don’t know why but I’ve always had it in my head that he’d be weaned by the time he was six months and on solid foods then.

After researching the issue, however, I’ve learned that almost everyone in the world recommends exclusive breastmilk/formula for the first six months, and then introducing solid foods but still providing the bulk of nutrition with breastmilk/formula until one year.  Then there are all these studies showing correlations (which, thanks to my psych degree, I know means nothing much until more research is done) between introducing solid foods prior to six months of age and diabetes/childhood obesity.

I was all gung-ho to start mashing up food and smearing it all over Aidan’s face.  I bought a Beaba, bought some wee baby spoons, and plotted his first meal.  Now, however, I’m getting cold feet.

After discussing the issue with Wes last night, I decided we’re just going to wait until Aidan’s six months old to introduce solid foods.  It will just make me feel better, and sometimes your mother’s intuition is all you have to go on.

Now, to merge the two hamsters…A spin-off question then becomes: If we do have three kids, will I fret over when to introduce solid foods to the third kid as much as I am for Aidan?  Almost assuredly not, for by the third kid I shall be wise and competent…Or else so subsumed by laundry as to no longer have the capacity to care so much.  Either or.

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Tuesday, July 13th, 2010 | Author: Erika

I love Dan Brown novels.  Dan Brown novels make me want to tear my hair out.  I enjoy learning academic esoterica from Dan Brown’s novels.  If Dan Brown gets any more blatant with the subtext in his novels, he may as well skip the story part and just keep trying to convince everyone to agree with him.

Such is my love/hate relationship with Dan Brown.  The author of The Da Vinci Code, Angels and Demons, and a few others.

I’ve been reading Dan Brown’s novels since I was in high school.  I own three of his books, actually.  His earlier work had a fun way of interspersing interesting facts with the story, so I always felt like I walked away from the book having learned something (I also felt this way when I was on my Tom Clancy kick awhile back).

I finished his new book, The Lost Symbol, this weekend and I have to say…I’m disappointed.  The story was a ton of fun, and I learned a lot about Washington D.C. and the Freemasons, but he should have stopped writing that book about 30 pages before he did.

The story wraps up, and then he goes on for another 30 pages with his personal religious views and how the established religious authorities have got it all wrong.  He quotes the Bible numerous times, but only ridiculously out of context, and the whole thing ends up just being really obnoxious.

I know a lot of Christians rose up in outrage over the things Dan Brown wrote about in The Da Vinci Code and Angels and Demons.  To be honest, I was never one of them because I didn’t really know enough at the time to know whether or not I should be outraged.  I just enjoyed the stories.

Either I know more now, or he’s getting increasingly ham-handed with his attempts to stir controversy, but the ending of The Lost Symbol just annoyed me.  It’s fine if he doesn’t agree with Christianity, or want to be a Christian.  I’m not about to brow-beat anyone for disagreeing with me.

But, he takes it too far when he quotes the Bible out of context so egregiously that I wonder if he even understands what he’s doing.  For him to try to put Jesus on a par with Buddha or Mohammad is laughable because Jesus left no room for Himself to be anything other than the Son of God.  He’s either the Messiah or He’s a lunatic, but there’s no way He was just some wise dude who left us a good example like so many other wise dudes.

Dan Brown is just so silly when he says the religious establishment has gotten the teachings of the Bible all wrong by asserting that their way is the only way to get to Heaven.  When Jesus says in John 14:6, “I am the way, the truth, and the life.  No one comes to the father except through me” He isn’t being coy.  He’s laying it out on the table, and there’s really no way to misunderstand that.

So this may be the end of the line for me.  If Dan Brown wants to write stories, I will read them.  If he’s going to keep getting up on increasingly larger soap boxes in an attempt to convince me that we are all gods, well, no thank you very much.  This mere human isn’t buying what he’s selling.

Friday, July 09th, 2010 | Author: Erika

Birthing From Within

I’ll be honest, I never really understood Birthing from Within.  I’d seen it recommended a million times over as the number-one-must-read-book-on-natural-childbirth, so it was actually the first one I checked out after I got my positive pregnancy test.

Then I opened it up and…I didn’t get it.  It was very focused on visualization of the birth.  My hopes for the birth, my vision of what it would feel like emotionally, that kind of thing.  It had activities in each chapter that required me to draw pictures of what I felt about birth and that is so not me it’s not even funny.

I was that kid in daycare who, during arts and crafts time, did the bare minimum creative output required so I could go back to reading books or pretending to be a horse running through the field (don’t laugh, it was actually a lot of fun, and since I didn’t have a real horse it was the best I could do).  I don’t really do drawing, my stick figures are so grotesque my four year old niece once remarked that she was proud of my good effort but that my drawing looked nothing like a human being.

For this book to expect me to express myself through drawing was laughable to begin with.  But then it took it a step further by asking me to sit and spend time contemplating what my hopes for the birth were, and imagine how I might feel.  How I visualized birth.

I’d never had a baby before, so for me to try to sit down and figure out how it might make me feel was completely unrealistic.  I have a fantastic imagination, but this was pushing it.  There’s no way I could have ever imagined reaching a point in my labor where time ceased to exist, where the gap between contractions would stretch for years, where I would cease to exist completely while the contraction hit me like a lightning strike.  I had no way of conceptualizing the incredible feeling of pushing Aidan’s head out, when it felt like I was literally giving birth to a planet.

As a childbirth newb, I was looking for boots-on-the-ground information about what labor would be like, what to expect, how to prepare.  This book was asking me to get in touch with the emotions surrounding birth, but I didn’t have any yet so I didn’t find it particularly helpful.

I discussed the book with one of my midwives once, and she nodded and said the book seemed most helpful to moms who had already had babies and were maybe recovering from a traumatic first birth experience.  This makes sense to me.  If my first birth had been traumatic, I could easily see wanting to sift through those emotions before embarking on my next labor adventure.

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