I was chatting with my sister in law last night about first babies. Specifically, the way having a baby can really mess with your head those first few days. I’ve made no secret of the fact that I struggled during Aidan’s first days. I loved him, and I felt very loved and taken care of, but the drastic change in my life and routine sent my head spinning.
As our new routine emerged, I eased into my new life. It looked nothing like my pre-baby life, but it was no less fulfilling for being different. Every day helps me feel a little more like I’ve got a handle on my new life as a mother, and I can’t even tell you how good that feels. Aidan and I have a lot of fun together, and even though I’m not perfect I know my little guy is healthy, happy, and learning. Good enough, in my opinion.
What I haven’t gotten a handle on yet is being a wife too. Before Aidan was born, I feel like I was a pretty good wife. Wes and I devoted a lot of time to each other and to our marriage. It’s very easy to give a ton of attention to your spouse when there’s no adorable little baby to steal the show.
It’s been almost six weeks since Aidan joined our world, and Wes and I still have yet to go on a date. We are terrific parents to our baby, and we help one another as much as possible, but we’ve definitely gotten out of practice paying attention to one another. So, we’re going on a date! A real date, with just the two of us, where we make eye contact and get to eat at the same time without one of us holding the baby.
According to Wes, we’re going to go on a quest for the best burger in Seattle. Sounds like fun, no? Is it weird, then, that I feel anxious? I’ll be expected to converse with my husband, and I have nothing to talk about except Aidan. I am the most boring person on the planet, how am I possibly going to make sparkling conversation with my husband?
Maybe the first post-baby date is supposed to be a little rough? Maybe everyone gets out of practice being spouses when they’re getting used to being new parents? I don’t know. What I do know is I could use some good conversation topics for my first post-baby date with my husband. Any of you have any good topics of conversation? Any cool tidbits you’ve learned? Random facts? Gossip or news items? Help!