So, this post, originally written by Sarah of Nerdy Apple Bottom, is blowing up all over the Internet. It’s hit a nerve (in a good way) in a lot of people, and there’s all kinds of love and support flowing around for her.
Stupendous! I love it when the Internets redeem themselves and throw kisses instead of rocks!
The only problem is, the post is a bit disturbing. At least to me. It’s called “My Son is Gay” and it’s about how her 5 year old son, who loves Scooby Doo, decided to dress up as Daphne for Halloween and how Sarah got some flack about it from three moms at her son’s school.
Regardless of how you feel about moms giving one another their opinions (which, we all know, is kind of a national mom past-time), this post is odd for a couple reasons. First, she declares outright in the title of the post that her son is gay. Then goes on to equivocate that maybe he isn’t, but she doesn’t care.
I’m all for a gripping, interesting post title, but this just seems to me to be drumming up shock value for the sake of creating drama. If, as she claims in her blog post, cross-dressing on Halloween is an innocent childhood right, then how and why does it make him gay?
Second, she’s posting her child’s face right there on the Internet in his Daphne costume with a giant headline above his face that proclaims that he’s gay. How’s he going to feel about that when he grows up?
I’m all for supporting your kids. But this seems soap-box-y to me more than truly supportive. In point of fact, she’s become the person her son was dreading in that she’s labeling her son as gay because he wanted to dress up like Daphne for Halloween. Her son expressed concern that people would make fun of him (perhaps draw conclusions from it?), and she’s gone and proclaimed his sexual preferences (he’s 5, remember) to the whole world.
This just seems like nonsense to me. We’re applauding her for what, exactly? Calling her son gay? Just because you say you’re fine if he’s gay doesn’t make it ok to unequivocally declare to every single stranger in the universe that he is.
I don’t write these things to be cruel, but I have genuinely ask: what are we applauding her for doing? Letting her son dress up like Daphne? Equivocating Halloween cross-dressing with being gay? Getting annoyed by other moms?
You’d have to be a fool to think she wrote that post out of anything other than love, but I’m not sure she did her son a service by writing it.